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After ten years of dating apps, it’s time for the next dating revolution. But what will it look like? Will we all turn to personal matchmakers, or will we leave it in the hands of AI? We explore the advantages and disadvantages of these trends and call a personal matchmaker to find out what it really takes to create the perfect match. Listen to the interview with Lotte Ditzel starting at minute 40: Tinder is straks ook je relatietherapeut Bron: dagennacht.nl/serie/schaamteloos-randstedelijk/

Hiring a matchmaker is becoming an increasingly common way to find love. While we’re still warming up to the idea here in Holland, in other countries it’s no more unusual than hiring a property agent to find a house. Lotte Ditzel and Saron van de Laar of Matchmaking agency DTNG., which is focused on mostly Dutch clientele, noticed they were receiving a growing number of international applicants. Rather than turning them away, the two decided to embrace this market and founded Infinity Relations: an exclusive matchmaking agency for successful international businesspeople and expats in the Netherlands. Bron: issuu.nl en hellozuidas.com Lotte launched her Matchmaking agency DTNG. five years ago. Today, the company manages a massive database and helps many people in the search for love. Having worked as a psychologist in psychiatry and with experience in recruitment and headhunting, Lotte possesses the perfect foundation for coaching clients and identifying the right matches. Saron joined DTNG. Three years ago, as one of Lotte’s Personal Matchmakers. With a background in applied psychology and experience working in neurology and subsequently as a dating coach and fashion stylist for dates, her talents dovetail with Lotte’s. Both have an immense passion and determination as ‘Headhunters in love’, sharing a deep commitment to quality, efficiency and fast, firm communication. Active approach What started with a client in Canada gradually led to the decision to focus on international clients, Saron says. “Internationals have a preference for personal dating agencies. It saves time and many needless disappointments. People are looking for genuine connections and depth, for quality and the knowledge they’re being taken care of.” To find the right partner, Infinity Relations takes a tailormade approach. Lotte: “We are members of a range of high-end business clubs where we approach people on an individual basis. We actively match singles with an elite clientele both within and outside our database.” The two women also offer personal guidance and coaching, and their emphasis on cultural differences and selfconfidence is particularly appreciated. Mutual trust Infinity Relations clients are all upscale internationals or internationally-oriented singles who lead an independent lifestyle. “Our first meeting is always with the person at home”, Saron explains. “Then we assess if they fit the profile of Infinity Relations and if there is a good connection. Trust is the most important aspect of the whole journey.” Lotte adds, “We always plan the first date. We’ll make a reservation at a nice wine bar or a romantic restaurant. You get to know each other a bit better after every date, which is even more valuable for finding the right match. It’s an amazing job!’’

Als jij denkt dat ware liefde niet voor jou is weggelegd, dan hebben wij goed nieuws! Matchmakers Lotte Ditzel en Saron van de Laar helpen jou graag bij het vinden van de ultieme partner. Met datingbureaus DTNG. en Infinity Relations hebben zij het matchen voor hoogopgeleiden, expats en succesvolle zakenmensen naar een ander niveau getild. Bron: Zuid.nl KWALITATIEF, INTEGER MÉT RESULTAAT Naar aanleiding van haar eigen ervaringen op de datingmarkt en de behoefte aan een betere aanpak, bedacht Lotte Ditzel dat het tijd was voor een kwalitatieve manier van daten mét resultaat. Met deze visie heeft DTNG. zich ontwikkeld tot een toonaangevend datingbureau in Nederland. Maar daar bleef het niet bij. “Over de jaren ontvingen we steeds meer aanmeldingen van expats en andere internationaal georiënteerde singles voor wie grenzen geen rol spelen”, vertelt Lotte. Dit bracht haar op het idee om samen met Saron het exclusieve datingbureau Infinity Relations te starten, dat volledig gericht is op expats en succesvolle zakenmensen. Dit resulteerde in twee datingbureaus met ieder hun eigen karakter. Met een team van ervaren matchmakers en een uitgebreide database maken ze het matchen van singles tot een groot succes. “We bieden een integere dienstverlening, maken duidelijke afspraken en doen wat we beloven.” vertelt Lotte. PERSOONLIJKE COACHING Uit ervaring blijkt dat het beeld wat mensen hebben van een datingbureau vaak niet klopt met de realiteit. Saron licht toe: “Er heerst regelmatig een vooroordeel over mensen die een datingbureau inschakelen. Ik zeg vaak: het zijn mensen zoals jij en ik. De één meldt zich aan omdat ze klaar zijn met de apps, de ander omdat ze het gevoel hebben de verkeerde mensen aan te trekken of ze vinden het fijn om een professional mee te laten kijken.” Met de jarenlange expertise en persoonlijke coaching onderscheiden zij zich in hun vak. “Je eindigt vaak met iemand waarvan je niet had bedacht dat je ervoor open zou staan.” De matchmakers kennen hun kwalitatieve database goed waardoor ze snelheid kunnen bieden in het matchen van klanten. “We streven naar één voorstel binnen vier weken. Het geheim zit in de persoonlijke coaching van de matchmakers én de wil om te leren van de klant. Mensen die zich open durven te stellen, kwetsbaar durven te zijn en niet te snel te oordelen. Je eindigt vaak met iemand waarvan je niet had bedacht dat je ervoor open zou staan”, aldus Saron. Bron: Zuid.nl VOOR IN DE AGENDA: SINGLE EVENTS EN VAKANTIES Op donderdag 29 juni organiseert DTNG. een ‘Bubbels & Bitterballen Borrel’ bij The Traveller in Amsterdam-Zuid. Een gezellige borrel waar singles elkaar in een ongedwongen setting kunnen ontmoeten. Leuk detail: singles kunnen samen met een vriend of vriendin komen, wat de borrel laagdrempelig maakt. “We kennen onze doelgroep goed en gaan persoonlijk naar de spots om in te schatten of het aansluit bij de wens van de deelnemers.” Infinity Relations biedt van 7 tot 10 september een High-end Singles Reis in de Bourgogne (Beaune) aan. Lotte vertelt: “Alles hebben we tot in de puntjes geregeld en voorbereid: denk aan diverse wijnproeverijen, golfclinics, luxe diners en lunches op waanzinnige locaties, en ook een ballonvaart. We kennen onze doelgroep goed en gaan persoonlijk naar de spots toe om in te schatten of het aansluit bij de wens van de klanten. Er is tijdens het weekend ruimte voor verbinding én ontspanning. De vakantie is vooral bedoeld om te genieten. De groep matchen we op interesses, leeftijd en levensstijl het is aan de deelnemers om verder hun charmes in de strijd te gooien!” Heb je zin in de DTNG. ‘Bubbels & Bitterballen Borrel’ op donderdag 29 juni. Koop hier je kaartje. Ben jij enthousiast én op zoek naar liefde? Aanmelden kan via: DTNG. & Infinity Relations Bron: Zuid.nl

Time to relax a little, or looking for a beautiful location to go with your new love? Skiing during the day and enjoying a massage or sauna at the end of the day. Here is our Top 3 luxury Ski Resort & Wellness list. Enjoy! Hotel Klosterbrau & SPA – Seefeld This luxury hotel is located in the village of Seefeld, not far from the slopes of the Gschwandtkopf and Seefelder Joch. Spend the night here in spacious rooms, suites and family suites. All are modern but attractively furnished, in typical Tyrolean style. Dining is available at no fewer than eight different locations, of which the wine cellar is surely the most impressive. And then there is the wellness. It exceeds all expectations and is incredibly extensive with all diffrent kind of (beauty) treatments.  Hotel AQUA DOME – Längenfeld Längenfeld is where you will find one of the best wellness hotels in Austria, namely Hotel AQUA DOME. A stylish, luxurious 4-star superior hotel with world-class wellness. With 12 indoor and outdoor pools, an extensive sauna landscape, massages, beauty treatments and much more, everyone will find complete relaxation here.  Naturhotel Forsthofgut – Leogang In this 5-star superior wellness hotel you will find extensive facilities. For the owners, nature is incredibly important and you notice this in everything. Both inside and outside there is extensive use of natural materials. Outside mainly wood and stone, inside also wool and leather. Accommodation is available in double rooms, suites, family suites and extra luxurious suites. In the hotel bar you can enjoy an afternoon drink and for an extensive dinner there are several restaurants to choose from. But at Forsthofgut you can really relax in the WaldSPA with its wonderful saunas and swimming pools.

In 2021, dating apps are the most common way for couples to date. But in the face of so many dating options, it is difficult to determine the most suitable dating app for marriage. Since not everyone considers weddings or marriage when downloading dating apps, more and more people are turning to digital services to find long-term relationships and even marriage. After all, if you want your next relationship to end with a big wedding, that would be great, wouldn’t it? There is absolutely nothing wrong with knowing what you want from another person. May it be marriage or a Long-Distance Relationship. However, if the only reason you decide to date is to get married, you will soon be disappointed. If you’re dating with the intention of marrying, you’re either going to succeed or fail Which implies you’ll be unhappy every time a relationship fails to work out. It means that when someone leaves your life, even if they were only supposed to be around for a short time, you’ll feel like you’ve squandered your time. And of course it’s natural to be disappointed when someone with whom you had planned to spend the rest of your life goes. However, you should not consider the experience a failure if you wind up splitting up with the wrong person for you. Because you didn’t choose to settle, you should consider it a success. You didn’t make the relationship work by forcing it. That’s where a matchmaking agency comes in It’s great if you only date people with whom you have the potential to marry, people who are serious about getting married soon, and people who won’t mess with your heart. But be careful not to place too much importance on marriage. Make sure that finding someone who fits you perfectly is more important to you than finding someone who is willing to eventually marry you. If you do find someone you love, and the marriage is predestined, the Netherlands is a great country to get married in. Getting married in The Netherlands – what to take into consideration? You can get married or enter into a registered partnership in the Netherlands, even if you are an expatriate living abroad. You are free to decide in which municipality you want to get married. To get married in the Netherlands, you must first register with the municipality of The Hague. You then inform them that you “intend to marry or enter into a registered partnership with each other”. This notification is valid for one year. The marriage or registered partnership must therefore be consummated within one year. There are a number of requirements for getting married in the NetherlandsAt least one of you has Dutch nationality. You are 18 years old or older. You are not married to another person. You do not have a registered partnership with another person. You are not too closely related to your partner. This means that your partner may not be, for example, your father, (grand)daughter, grandfather or (half)sister.  You are not under guardianship. If you are under guardianship, you need the permission of the guardian or the local court. The municipality will check whether you can marry each other or enter into a registered partnership. Marriage abroad – returning to the Netherlands Did you get married abroad and do you intend to return to the Netherlands one day? Then it is advisable to have your foreign marriage certificate converted into a Dutch marriage certificate at the registry office of the City of The Hague. However, the foreign marriage certificate must first be notarised or apostilled. If the foreign marriage certificate is not in English, French, German or Dutch, a sworn translation is also required. Once again: make sure that finding someone who fits you perfectly is more important to you than finding someone who is willing to eventually marry you. Need advice? Let Infinity Relations help you out. We are an Exclusive Matchmaking Agency for global leaders, expats and successful entrepreneurs in the Netherlands who are serious about finding lasting love

Opposites attract! Time to delve a little deeper into this subject. Do we find someone more attractive who does not look like us? Or do we fall for someone we recognize ourselves in? In short, what attracts us to the other person? It will probably have happened to you. A good friend is at your door, sad and tired. Her long-standing relationship has just run out of steam: there were only arguments or the love has simply disappeared. “You were just too much alike,” you try to say soothingly. Your friend nods in agreement and wipes away her tears. “Yeah, you’re right,” she replies. “It was going to go wrong sooner or later anyway.” Opposites attract, after all, the saying goes. And so we reject that potential partner because we identify too much with that person or use this as an explanation for why a relationship is doomed to fail. But what about that other common saying: “like attracts like”? This seems to contradict the above and creates additional ambiguity in the already complicated dating world. So it’s time to delve a little deeper into this subject. Do we find someone more attractive who does not look like us? Or do we fall for someone in whom we recognize ourselves? In short, what attracts us to the other person? “A beautiful woman”, you can hear many men say. And preferably someone who can cook a little well and is caring is added to the wish list. The average woman likes an intelligent man, who is high on the social status ladder and has a flourishing career ahead of him. From both sides, this sounds a tad superficial, but looking at evolutionary theory, it becomes a bit more plausible. Men are more likely to pass on their genes to a woman who looks attractive to them (with an attractive, healthy body being considered more suitable for bearing children), women are more likely to have their children survive when they have a strong, intelligent man by their side who offers protection and knows how to provide the necessary amenities. So we have nothing to be ashamed of if we have the above – at first glance superficial – traits high on the list of requirements for the ideal partner. But what about the opposites attract part? Generally speaking, like-minded people attract each other. This seems to be a result of classical conditioning: if you meet someone with the same characteristics and values, he or she will evoke a familiar and positive feeling in you. This also applies to the opposite: if you meet a totally different person, you will be less inclined to like them. It is also true that like-minded people have the same ‘love style’, which creates a stable relationship. Of course, in terms of character you do not have to resemble your partner as two peas in a pod in order for the relationship to succeed. In fact, you align your strong and weak traits, compensating for each other and learning from each other, is a solid bonding tool in the relationship. Yet the opposites attract saying does not come out of the blue. Maybe you recognize yourself in it, you always fall for persons who are different from you in every way. Probably because it is unknown and new, and therefore of course very exciting. You don’t know what to expect, so it won’t get boring easily. But you will also notice that it will usually be limited to fiery contacts that will pass after a short time. Or worse: it does become a relationship, but there is continuous fighting between them. That’s not what you want, right? Conclusion from the above? Be open to someone who looks like you. Maybe a touch less exciting, but it will greatly increase your chances of a stable relationship.

Have you just moved to the Netherlands and looking for a perfect partner you can share your life with? Are you an elite, international orientated Dutch single struggling to find a soul mate? You are not alone. Finding long-lasting love is hard, and it is even more challenging for expats who are busy, have high taste, and don’t have the time to headhunt.  The good news is that there are still some ways to meet elite singles like you who are looking for serious commitments. In this post, we’ll share some experts tips on how expats can find long-lasting love in the Netherlands. Hire a professional matchmaker The best way for expats to find love in the Netherlands is by engaging the service of elite matchmaking agencies. They can save you the time and stress of searching for love by bringing you the ideal partner. These agencies have in-depth knowledge and experience headhunting for elite singles and bringing their clients matches that are compatible with their personality and values.  Online dating apps Online dating apps and websites are becoming more popular in the Netherlands, and lots of singles are using these platforms to find serious relationships. As an expat, we recommend that you opt only for online dating apps that verify their users’ information and offer you a lot of privacy. Though these platforms can be helpful, you should note that they can also be time wasting as you may have to surf multiple profiles and set up several dates before finding your perfect match.  Find expat groups and clubs near you If you have some time on your sleeve, you can check out expats groups and clubs in your local area. This will help you widen your social circle and increase your chances of meeting like-minded singles. Whatever your interests are, we are sure you would find a suitable expat club or group in the Netherlands.  Have any questions or need help finding love? Meet Infinity Relations! One of our professional matchmakers will meet you and help you find your dream partner!

In addition to being tired from, for example, your job, watching TV for too long or running around the park, you can also become extinguished from dating these days. This general love fatigue can be described as date burnout and is caused by too many dates with too many different people in a row. Although the symptoms are not as bad as normal burnout, date burnout is not something you should take lightly. Time to take a closer look at this phenomenon. What characteristics does a burnt-out serial dater actually exhibit? And how do you turn that dying fire into a lasting burning love that sparks off? What’s Happnin’ It’s no news that with the arrival of apps like Tinder, Happn, Grindr or Inner Circle the belief in several great loves (per day) has increased. Where in the past you could languish for weeks or even months just to catch a glimpse of the one object of your affection, you now simply swipe to the right or press the heart button on all the attractive profiles you see online. The same evening you can sit at the bar with a random chosen one, deep in conversation about your work, the best Netflix series or the next round of drinks. Sounds like a never ending love story and it is, but not with a happy ending. Anyone who repeats this rant often enough runs the risk of becoming burned out, discouraged and desperate, which ultimately means dating is out of the question altogether. Something that psychologist Shannon Kolakowski experienced personally in her immediate environment. The large number of singles she spoke to shifted from one date to the next in high gear, hoping of course that their true love was among them, while in the meantime they didn’t really feel anything for anyone in particular. All of them then doubted whether this was due to the people they were dating or their own ability to have feelings of love for someone. All also struggled with their self-esteem and often felt hopeless or depressed throughout the process. Yet they continued to date stubbornly, because it still felt better than the feelings of restlessness and impatience sometimes so characteristic of a date-less existence. But over time, the fleetingness of the many dates brought them more and more difficulties, confusion, discouragement, and an ever-increasing alienation from themselves. As a result, they ended up not wanting to go on dates at all. They were firmly convinced that it was not worth all the disappointment and that love was not for them. After all, they had already tried everything. Dating had become for them a terrible, obligatory number, instead of an exciting, new opportunity to meet someone interesting. Fear and uncertainty  Kolakowski explains to us in her book “Single, Shy and Looking for Love” why this is. Nowadays, dating apps make it very easy for people to escape that inevitable part of dating: feelings of insecurity. Do I like him? What did she think of me after our last date? At times like these, it seems easier to look for new matches online than to deal with all the unanswered questions you have about your current date. Still, when you are looking for a long relationship, it is important to give the other person a chance to really get to know you and vice versa. Of course, it doesn’t help if you flit from one to the other in the meantime, too impatient to really stick around. Online swiping can also lead to you becoming less emotionally available. The virtual, artificial and hectic aspect of it all means that you attribute less human qualities to others and no longer consider them worthy of your time, attention, kindness or respect. So dates are canceled last minute, don’t show up or disappear, after a first date that may or may not have been disappointing. It is this series of disappointments and rejections that causes people to experience what is known as date burnout. This effect is even stronger in types who are above average in fear or shyness. On this, Kolakowski explains how fear naturally acts as a protection mechanism against danger or pain. Those who experience higher levels of anxiety or are very shy also suffer more from (anxious) thoughts that convince them that dating is not safe and therefore not worth it. However, when you ask couples what they miss the most since being in a relationship, they often start talking about first times like the first kiss, beginning butterflies or the first time they woke up together. All aspects that make dating so valuable and worthwhile, contrary to what people who suffer from date burnout think.   From burn-out to burning desire Fortunately, there are a number of things you can do to deal with date burnout. One is to not think too far ahead, because no matter how much you muse about it, you simply cannot know if you will spend the rest of your life with someone after one or two dates. Worrying about this will give you unnecessary anxiety, preventing you from experiencing the positive emotion of a date. Think about whether you would like to date this person in the next one to two month(s)? This will reduce feelings of stress, making you more receptive to a connection and perhaps even a budding love. The next important thing to consider is the uncomfortable uncertainty of not knowing if you want/need a relationship with someone. Your instinct in this state may tell you to continue looking at what else is around on the singles market in the meantime, but if you are looking for something long-term it can help to see this uncertainty and uncomfortable feelings as part of your current dating developments. By experiencing them rather than avoiding them, you build a tolerance for them. As a result, a budding relationship is more likely to unfold naturally. Another piece of advice is to break away from so-called “rules”. Rules are often unrealistic and

Yes, you read it right. A matchmaker. “How so?” you may be thinking. A successful man, with a good sense of humor, impressive looks and a good set of brains, who prefers matchmaking to personal hunting…. Dark blue tailored suit, handmade Italian shoes. A charismatic head with an impressive head of hair. His beeping Iphone lies on the table in front of him, the emails keep pouring in. Calmly he takes a sip of his espresso, while he goes through the latest financial news. He has made an agreement with his secretary that he does not want to be disturbed before ten o’clock in the morning. The first hours of the day are for himself: exercise, meditate and then have a healthy breakfast. Just recharge before the daily rat race starts again. As CEO of a fast-growing company, his life is hectic and his schedule is usually overflowing. The screen of his phone lights up: an incoming call from that nice date from a few days ago. He grabs the iPhone and a smile appears on his face: time is made for his new love. And that new love, he got to know thanks to his personal matchmaker. Yes, you read it correctly. A matchmaker. “How so?’Can’t he do that himself, then!’, may come to mind. There seems to be another stigma attached to it: a man who enlists professional help to find the love of his life. A few think it’s an act of weakness, a kind of loss of face. For women it seems less strange to hire a matchmaker: they are usually used to getting advice from their loved ones and talking a lot with friends, a personal matchmaker is simply considered an extension of that. For men, the threshold therefore seems higher, which is unjustified. After all, it is precisely logical for a confident, successful man to go for a matchmaker. With regard to other aspects of his life he also chooses the very best: to keep fit he has a personal trainer, to look good he has an experienced tailor and the design of his new house he leaves to a much vaunted interior stylist. Then it is really only logical that in terms of his love life he is not satisfied with less. Instead of going on the hunt himself, he leaves the arrangement of a date to a professional. Smart, because this prevents unnecessary waste of time and increases the chances of success in love. In America, personal matchmaking is now the most normal thing in the world. The country is at the forefront of this type of service. From personal shoppers to daily dog walkers, Americans are not afraid to outsource certain tasks. And that includes the personal matchmaker. It has nothing to do with the customer’s inability or unwillingness to find a date himself. No, on the contrary: if you choose a matchmaker, you show that you know what you want and that you won’t settle for less. And that, in turn, makes you more attractive to a future love. The perfect win-win situation!